I'm not getting notifications from my partner
Check two places.
iOS Settings: Settings → Notifications → Phorb must be allowed. If it's off at the system level, the app will prompt you to open iOS Settings.
Phorb Settings → Notifications: turn on the master toggle, then pick what you want — partner emotions, notes, needs, pulses, doodles, reactions, calendar events, daily ritual.
Check-in reminders are local only (on your device, for your streak). Partner activity alerts are push notifications.
Still nothing? Force-quit and reopen Phorb, make sure you're paired, and ask your partner to log an emotion as a test.